Uma Gupta’s Upcoming Book on
Shift Your Perspective: Shift Your Life
Excerpt: We are not born with a self-help manual in our heads or hands. In fact, we tell ourselves that may be others need help, but we won’t, or we don’t. When life is good and our plans match with the events and happenings in our life, self-help is the furthest thing from our mind. We may even talk in hushed tones about a friend who is undergoing therapy or under psychiatric care. We don’t brag about being a member of "Alcohol Anonymous" or any other self-help group. Some of us may even bury our self-help book in a magazine in a public place so that others don’t read the title of the book. No explanations are needed when you are reading Stephen King, but when you are reading a book called, "Ask and it is Given!" – well, that could raise some eyebrows. Needing help is often equated with weakness in many cultures. After all, the American adventurer did not carry a self-help book on his horseback when marching into the wild, unknown Western frontier. Our environment teaches us and even actively encourages us to figure out everything life throws at us on our own. "Get over it!" or "Quit mopping!" or "That was a long time ago!" or "Move on!" are all messages meant to be encouraging and soothing or sometimes these are messages intended to give a much-needed kick in the behind!" Still, the subtle message is about taking the hard knocks, pulling oneself together, and to keep going. But if this were entirely true there would be no spiritual leaders, no psychiatrists or psychologists, no counselors, no focused groups, and no self-help books. Today, the reason why self-help is such a thriving industry is because the taboo is starting to wear off. It is okay to say, "I need help!" It is okay to say, "I feel stuck!" or "I am lonely!" or "God, I just need another perspective!" It is okay to be human, it is okay to be vulnerable, it is okay to ask for help, and it is okay to share your life’s perspectives with others if it can assist them in their life’s journey. It is all okay. In the process of asking for help we become better equipped to give help.
Excerpt from an upcoming book by Uma Gupta on Shift Your Perspective: Shift Your Life.